There is a solder specifically for sldering SS and can be melted with a propane torch. I can nt remember the name and where I put it but a good welding supply store should be able to help. As I recall I little tube about the size of a prescrption bottle was like $15.
I have got that, silver solder, and the SS can get hot enough, but what my research indicates is that if I don't have a two-tank system (one with propane, one with oxygen) the lack of oxygen in the flame causes some kind of film to form on the SS, preventing the solder from sticking.
And actually, plumbing solder works on SS, its the flux that has to be different, but alas, I have that too. So no easy fixes in sight.
Thank you both for your replies, I am going to call around tomorrow and get some quotes. Of course it has also come to my attention recently that Carter lives in my vicinity... (hint hint).