Hi Sal, we eventually cleaned up most of the mess with very hot water, and I just kept scrapping with a knife to get into the hard to get places. I have used the brown paper and hot iron method many times to remove wax, it is very efficient.
As to drying a cheese. I noted that my friend dried hers by an open window, and it has been blowing a gale here. The outside surface was very dry to touch, and was quite opaque and darker yellow. She has dried her on it's side, and it had gone elliptical in shape, where as I dry mine like you and get a milder barreling than what you have got.
Mine feels very dry and hard after three days drying, and I am going to wax it this morning. This one hasn't had any barreling at all.
Usually though I go by what the recipe says in regards to length of drying time. Sometimes it says to leave one day, others say 3-4 days, and others just say into the cheese edges start to go a darker yellow.