I second, the notion of "sounding alot like me," kookookachoo. I can tell you that I'm an obsessive freak (you will see me on board here, most nights, anywhere between 2-4 a.m., local time), to an assured fault. And I tap some truly gifted people here, as much as they'll put up with, for everything they've got. It's been an enjoyable ride, in a short couple of months.
That said, at the end of the day, I hope we're all doing this, ultimately, from a sense of pleasure; for ourselves in the make, and in the eating, and for others, with whom we share our efforts. So at the end of the day, if we depend on more experienced others, it's our own sense of things that has to guide the show.
I personally applaud both your "obsessiveness," and your ultimate desire to make parm, a cheese you love. Take what I say with a grain of salt (I really am new), but I don't think there's ever a make to truly regret - it's all learning, if painful, at times, to one's perfectionist sensibilities. A platitude, but still a truthful one, I think.
Best of luck.
Paul