Thanks so much for you help, Linux
I am really sorry that I am bemused by your explanation
Anyway, my husband saw that was felling very discouraged, and suggested we watch a video about it. First we watched one where they make pecorino... over a campfire in a little hut... stirring with thin tree branches with the bark peeled off... and then when the rind develops, they open it up for the flies to come in and eat it when the maggots show up. (just thought I'd describe that as it seemed unusual)
Then we watched one about a man making farmhouse cheddar, which seems to be a very basic hard cheese (no annatto, no lipase, no cheddaring).
Now, when he cut his curd, you could hear that he didn't get it all cut up. And then he didn't check it. He just put it like that into the warm water to cook the curds. He stirred the curds quite gently; they didn't have the "rest period" that is in my directions, and it did seem that his stirring would cut up the curds to a point but it was very gentle and apparently almost continuous? Hard to tell as he didn'tnfilm the entire half hour, during which he also changed the water in the sink a couple of times.
Then he drained the curds, and you could see they looked more like cooked oatmeal than mine do. By this time, mine are like tiny coat gel packs which seem they will not pack together, and the smaller stuff just like... a toy soldier which melted and them someone tried to straighten out?
And after an hour, he put them in the bowl and then fluffed them up! They seemed very different, not really difficult to separate. But still moist. And very easy to mix salt into (another problem I've been having, what with the lightly armored stuff I get).
Sorry to have been so long, but now I'm wondering if my diligence on size and cut-up-ed-ness of my curds may have caused too much collison and done this ghastly thing to my curds? And then my fear of stirring too much caused me to stirr too little, necessitating too much roughness to keep them from matting?
Is that possible?
Thanks so very much!!!!